It is about how to deal with one’s own anger issues. It could involve looking into methods of reducing anger, such as yoga, meditation, or seeing a therapist. Look into finding ways to calm oneself.
Anger can destroy you if you don’t deal with it. It will eat away at you and influence every action that you take. If you can’t deal with it yourself, you should get professional help.
I asked readers, researchers, and curious folks like yourself what they felt was most important about this topic. What follows is a combination of some of the better answers in a long series of interview-format articles. The answers are raw, personal, and hopefully add some insight to your life.
Today’s Focus: Dealing With Anger
R: What’s so special about this topic anyway?
I: Being at peace with one self is a fulfillment in itself. Dealing with your anger would allow you to let go of the petty and insignificant. It would allow you to focus on the positive.
R: Assume the change from this subject is super-important, how could it help someone change their life?
I: Dealing with anger is tough, but must be addressed in order to live a happier life. Dealing with anger can be done by talking with someone trusted and getting help. Once the anger is lessened the person will feel better about life and live a happier life.
R: I think everyone wants to be a better person – can you tell us how this topic relates?
I: Anger issues are a hot button issue. Anger management is needed to help someone deal with the problems they have communicating with others. Dealing with anger also helps people relax and focus on real problems. It also is needed to keep people from making a problem worse than it was.
R: Can you think of anyone that exemplifies what this topic means to you?
I: Counselors who are good with helping people deal with anger. They know how to help people cope with anger and move on. They can talk one on one with you and help you with your anger problems.
R: Provide us with an example of what kind of person is better of never talking about this subject ever again.
I: I think impulsive, emotional people who are used to do something first and think later are the ones who don’t know how to properly deal with anger. If the person is spoiled or indulged in any degree, it makes them even worse in this regard. When they are angry, they “blow up” without thinking.
R: Give us an example of what you do to make this topic a part of your daily duties.
I: What is probably the most effective means to learn about dealing with anger would be to consult with a therapist, to discover the root psychological causes for one’s anger, and to learn methods of coping with or mitigating ones anger. The internet may also be a useful tool for learning to deal with anger, as many virtual support groups exist online; however, when it comes to dealing with information found on the internet, one must be careful to try and weed out potentially false information. Finally, family and friends can sometimes be a useful outlet for expressing and coping with one’s anger, provided that this group isn’t the cause of the anger issues. Also, I might recommend reading some works by the stoic philosophers, such as Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, or the Enchiridion by Epictetus.
R: What parts of the daily routine are best for making this subject more useful?
I: When one has an alcoholic problem and needs self-discipline is a good time to deal with the topic. When the person is ready to try something new instead another argument is a time to bring this activity in one’s life. When one is likely to be in a board room with dissenting executives is a good time to bring in this personal growth topic.
R: Tell me about an inappropriate time to bring up this topic or use it in life?
I: When promoting someone not based on merit, it is not a good time to talk about dealing with anger. If you are a manager, you should talk about promotion and expectations before the promotion, especially when it comes to anger. Keeping anger and promotional expectations separated is sometimes the best way to go.
R: In a few short sentences, tell us where people could get some good use out of this topic.
I: Dealing with anger issues needs to constantly be addressed in the lives of those suffering from anger issues. A conducive environment for dealing with anger issues might be a quiet room or office with light music in the background, or a relaxing bath. To achieve the desired outcomes, it would be best to seek professional counseling to learn to manage anger if the issue is sufficiently severe.
R: Tell us about the worst place to make this subject part of our lives.
I: In the topic of dealing with anger you should not bring this up when you are fighting with someone or when someone is upset. This will only enrage them more and have a negative outcome. If you are trying to confront someone with anger problems this will only push them away. You should confront someone who has anger problems when they are in a good mood and do it gently and do not point fingers.
R: Do you know of any people, organizations, or groups that could benefit from learning more about this topic?
I: I live in a college town, and therefore run into a lot of the students on a daily basis, and I think that college-aged males could really benefit from dealing with anger and anger management. So many of these young men just have so much bravado and are unwilling to back down in the case of any challenge–they’re quite often rude, confrontational, and aggressive. Every single thing is viewed as a threat. I think they could, as a group, benefit from learning how to deal with their feelings in a less confrontational way. They could get a lot out of learning how to back down and compromise and think of the other person’s mindset/feelings before they react.
R: If you could only give one piece of advice for this folks out there, what would it be?
I: Take an anger management class or get a self-help book. Anger is bad for you. Learning to cope with it may be the best thing you ever do for yourself.
R: This topic has many sides; what are some sides folks out there should avoid?
I: When you’re trying to deal with your anger it’s good to avoid stressful situations. Learn the coping techniques, practice them and then you can put them into action. This way you will feel confident about them before actually trying them in a situation with real stress or anger.
R: Given any tool available, what would you recommend folks do make this subject a bigger part of their lives?
I: To better deal with anger you must find a way to let things go. Holding grudges can cause more anger, and forgiving and forgetting is a good way to cope with anger. Anger does not need to control your life and letting go is a good first step.
I trust you enjoyed this trip through learning more about this topic. Often, I find some of the most useful (and colorful!) pearls of wisdom come out of the quick little answers we give each day. I hope you do too and that some of these nuggets of awesomeness were here for you.
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