It so happens that I have to deal with overcoming sadness almost on a daily basis. I think it’s important to do for my family’s sake; no one wants to be around a sad, depressed person for a long time. The way I deal with it is two-fold: number one, I admit that there are legitimate reasons for my feeling sad; number two, I focus on the good things that I have in my life. Being grateful for the good things helps to cope with the not-so-good ones.
Sadness is bad. Anything that helps a person overcome it is a good thing. Nobody should have to be sad. Life is too short.
I asked readers, researchers, and curious folks like yourself what they felt was most important about this topic. What follows is a combination of some of the better answers in a long series of interview-format articles. The answers are raw, personal, and hopefully add some insight to your life.
Today’s Focus: Overcoming Sadness
R: What’s so special about this topic anyway?
I: The best benefits from overcoming sadness is the ability to take back one’s life and the added benefit of helping others do the same thing. Learning about overcoming sadness help parents connect with their children in certain situations. Eventually every person goes through some type of loss as this is the human condition. Overcoming sadness makes a person better off in the long run.
R: Sometimes, I think this kind of stuff could really help people in life – what do you think?
I: This topic is important and can make someone very happy! It is important that a person is happy so they can enjoy their life and pursue their own individual goals. Overcoming sadness leads to a fulfilled life.
R: Share some of your inner feelings on just how useful this topic is for making people want to be better.
I: Intolerance of the present creates a future. Forgiveness is not a suggestion, but a REQUIREMENT. Whoever cannot increase you, will eventually decrease you.
R: Who do you think is best when it comes to this topic?
I: My spouse is good at overcoming sadness or helping me overcome it. I ask God to help me overcome sadness with His peace. Reading the Word of God helps too.
R: Provide us with an example of what kind of person is better of never talking about this subject ever again.
I: People who do not want to overcome sadness will not. In order to do anything a person has to want to do it. When the want is there, then the person will be ready to move on with their life.
R: Start planning for tomorrow by letting us know how this topic could be more present in your daily life.
I: you can find a support group that deals with this type of topic. You can ask friends if they are willing to sit down and talk with you. Most of the time it is best to get things just off your chest, without being judged
R: When do you think the average person should start paying attention to this topic?
I: When someone is going through sickness (cancer), it is important that they are able to overcome their emotions. Their ability to overcome their sadness will directly influence their recovery. If they can overcome the sadness, they are more able to overcome their sickness.
R: Tell me about an inappropriate time to bring up this topic or use it in life?
I: It would be a bad time to bring this topic into someone’s life when they are in the depths of sadness. At that time nothing may seem able help overcome the despair. Most people would see no opportunity for growth in such a situation.
R: Give us an example of a good place to bring this subject into daily life.
I: Definitely surrounding yourself with family and friends is a way to do this. I believe that these are the people that you have formed the closest/most personal bonds with, therefore they will not judge you for being sad. Additionally having someone to speak with and hang out with can often serve as a distraction from your sadness, in fact it can be quite liberating and make you happy.
R: Tell us about the worst place to make this subject part of our lives.
I: When you are mourning over the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship and you reach the point where the sadness is no longer there, you feel incomplete. You then get angry at yourself for not being sad anymore. You start to worry that maybe you are not just getting used to the change, but maybe you don’t care anymore.
R: Who’s someone (or group) you think could gain a bunch from learning more about this topic?
I: A group that specializes in bereavements. Groups that express sympathy for those they have lost would be a great place to discuss the topic. Families and friends of those who once was shared in the family unit would benefit, as well.
R: What would you tell the readers to do if they wanted to get help with this topic soon?
I: I would tell them not to worry to become a happier person. I would tell them to surround themselves with happy people. I would tell them to experience the steps of grieving and then let it go.
R: Give the readers an example of the biggest pitfall for this topic.
I: I think the worst thing when trying to overcome sadness is not talking to anyone. Isolation just makes the problem worse, and sadness (especially grief) is almost impossible to battle alone. The most common excuse for not seeking help from professionals is expectations of cost, yet most states offer low cost or free mental therapy services.
R: Given any tool available, what would you recommend folks do make this subject a bigger part of their lives?
I: Tell yourself over and over again positive things that negate the sadness. Even if you have a good reason for sadness you can compartmentalize it in order to overcome it. Start by listing 5 reasons to be happy about three times a day.
I trust you enjoyed this trip through learning more about this topic. Often, I find some of the most useful (and colorful!) pearls of wisdom come out of the quick little answers we give each day. I hope you do too and that some of these nuggets of awesomeness were here for you.
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