Relationships can be tough, fun, rewarding, or just plain boring. Which one sounds right for you? Sure we all want the best for ourselves and others out there, but this takes knowing about our personalities to really get anywhere. How could somebody really understand someone else without having a keen grasp of their personality?
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Know how you work, how others work, and how the two combine, is the ultimate in awareness and understanding in a relationship. When you can spot the strengths of others and use them advantageously, while simultaneously trying not to hammer someone too much on their weaknesses, then you can obtain a level of relationship performance unmatched by the majority of folks out there.
I created a survey and polled several hundred people about personalities and how this interesting topic affects their lives. What follows is their raw, personal, and highly enlightening experiences, opinions, and feelings. I did clean up the language a bit where it was needed, but the survey results here are about as blunt as can be. I’m hoping they’ll help you see just how important personality is in your life.
Survey Question:
How could finding out more about your personality help you in relationships?
Survey Answers:
- Well, if I could figure out why I get shy it would me be more confident. Shy and getting tense when I first meet people (especially women I like) give me issues. It would be nice NOT to be like this and i would like to learn more about myself, which is probably the best thing to do for everyone to begin with. My personality is great otherwise, it’s just the initial meeting with people that gives the wrong idea.
- It would be helpful in relationships because I could emphasize my strengths and work to improve my weaknesses. This would make others enjoy my company more, and make relationships more fulfilling to me. As a result, I would have a more fulfilling life and have more happiness in my life.There are people in my life that I care about a great deal, and anything I can do to improve my relationships is beneficial to me and them. With respect to my children, spouse and extended family, I think this would be very valuable and welcomed information.
- Understanding my personality better would help me in relationships because I could work on areas that I struggle with. Like communication, some things I find difficult to communicate about and this creates tension sometimes because there’s that feeling of knowing there’s something you’re not talking about.
- Well, finding out if I have a tendency to be bossy or argumentative could be a big clue to getting along better with someone else if I learn to curb that tendency. Learning about inner attitudes, values, and morals will help me chose someone I can be in a relationship with. Understanding myself and what my likes and dislikes are will help if I am trying to get along with another person.
- My personality dictates who is attracted to me. Regardless of who I might be interested in, aspects of my personality can shield that person from me. By understanding my personality, I can appreciate how the world sees me. If I want to change that perception, this would be a basic first step.
- This would be good because I could see the great things that I should continue to do in a relationship. This would also help because I could see the flaws and hopefully change them. It would be a plus to me and also to whoever I am in a relationship with.
- Finding out about my personality would help me manage my emotions. I would understand what is causing these emotions and respond accordingly rather than based on said emotions. I could also find out who I am more likely to be compatible with based on my personality.
- Having empirical evidence of what my personality is as opposed to what I believe it to be would help identify who would be a better match for a significant other. A personality test may reveal to me that I’m not spontaneous like I thought I was, and may lead me to look for a relationship with someone who is very spontaneous. Or perhaps I have trouble communicating and knowing this would allow me to look for someone who has greater empathy than I would normally look for.
- Finding out more about my own personality would allow me to understand why people might react the way they do to me, which would in turn help me in relationships. For example, having a good understanding of one’s own personality makes it easier to understand why things might be going awry with another person if conflict were to occur. By understanding my own personality traits and the reactions these inspire in myself, it makes it easier to understand the way that others treat me.
- Knowing more about my personality could help my relationships in several ways. It would allow me to know who I could form a good bond with. It would also allow me to understand why I dislike certain people and maybe overcome that.
- Finding more about your personality would contribute greatly to the value of your relationships. You will know what kind of person you are, and thus what kind of person to look for in a partner. It will create better and longer lasting chemistry.
- If I know what I like, it would be easier to find a mate. The relationship would be better if we had more in common. If I was a better person, there would be more mutual respect.
- It would help my partner and myself, know my standard of morals. My partner would know what makes me happy, what makes me mad, and what I approve of doing. It would also help me realize that I may be too selfish if I only cared about my personality and my values. I would use this realization to strengthen my relationship.
- Learning more about oneself is important to improving their relationships. I feel that being more aware of what pushes my buttons makes it easier to control my reactions to things so that I could be more even tempered and content around people that I have relations with. Being able to recognize these feelings and express myself accordingly would certainly help us form a better bond and understanding of each other.
- It would be useful because I could more easily figure out who would be the best match for me. Or who I would be the best match for. And if we weren’t the best match I would know what needed to change to make the relationship work better. Being able to best articulate my needs in a relationship helps the other person too.
- It would help me understand my areas of weaknesses. Once knowing my weaknesses, I could do things to improve those areas and hopefully I could strengthen my relationships. It could also show me areas that I never thought about or overlooked. Now with new gained knowledge I could adjust my ways to also improve my relationships.
- I think if you found out more about my personality it would help out with the fact I don’t enjoy arguing because I am a go with the flow person. If we get into argument it messes up my flow and causes me to become a nervous person. So if you were as laid back as me and learned that about me and in turn tried to do the same it would make a relationship 100X better!
- I have noticed over the years that my personality is good. Most people I meet like me and enjoy my honesty. However, in some of my more intimate relationships I do find that I may need some filtering. So, knowing more about what might be a turnoff versus a turn on would be helpful.
- It would help me find others who are similar to me. They say that people who are alike do well with one another. It may even make the relationship easier.
- A relationship thrives on trust, openness, and a willingness to listen. You have to let someone know all about you, but you can’t do that if you don’t know all about yourself. Few people want to enter a relationship to watch you do soul searching.Not to mention it wouldn’t be fair to the other person for you to still be trying to figure yourself out while they’re spilling their guts to you. And your soul searching may just lead to you realizing that they’re not a person you want to be with. But as you learn more about yourself you’ll learn what you need someone else to be for you, and what you can be for someone else.
- By knowing yourself, you’ll know what you like and what you’re not compatible with. Nothing is worse than getting in a relationship with someone and then realizing that it won’t work because you clash too much. Going into a relationship knowing who you are means you know what your expectations are or what you can tolerate.Understanding that from the beginning gives you a better idea of how long the relationship might last. It also keeps you from being walked on, if you stay true to yourself and knowing who that self is.
- I would be able to express myself better emotionally and physically. I can tend to the needs of my partner. I could also express what I want and what I like so our relationship is stronger.
- I’ve already discovered that I have a difficult time relating to people with opposite personalities than me. I think that by not only learning about my personality, but the personality in general, could help me appreciate the differences in different types of people, and improve my relationships that way.I also would want to learn more about introversion. I’m a bit ashamed of being shy, but I think that if I learn more about this personality trait, and more about why I’m shy, maybe I’ll see that it isn’t as bad as I think, and maybe this will lead to me not feeling as self-conscious and able to make friends more easily.
- I believe that it would help find people who are more compatible. It would let me know what kind of people I don’t necessarily want to be around. It would protect me from abrasive people.
- I think it would give me a bigger idea of my flaws. I’ve never had a problem with self-esteem or confidence, so I do know what my positive traits are already. Even the most self-aware person has faults they may not fully understand yet. It would help me improve both social and romantic aspects of my life.
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How do you think you can apply these personal insights into the personalities and opinions of other folks out there just like you? Please share your thoughts below.
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