Oftentimes we have those funky days where we’re just not feeling good. The emotions are funky. The events that happened are funky. The expectations we set up for ourselves maybe just weren’t met or weren’t met in the way we wanted them to. It just sucks.
We just don’t know how to react in all those situations and sometimes we think we have to give a lot of attention to these thoughts and these events that happen whether or not they’re in our control.
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The biggest tip I could ever give you about learning how not to dwell and how to move on with your life is to take that dwelling, that habit of dwelling, that thought of dwelling, that thought that is causing you to get there in the first place, know that you do not have to dedicate your energy to it and replace that absence of doing something with it with doing something else positive.
You can’t just remove it and leave that gaping void in your mind because your mind, it hates a vacuum, man. It has to fill it up. So, have something else to do, something else to focus on, some dedicated work or to do list or project that you can go to when these things come up and flip it over.
But the biggest empowering tip I can give you is you do not have to, you are not obligated to, no one is saying that you have to dedicate any of your energy, your effort, your thinking, or your time to every single thought that comes through your head. It’s impossible. You shouldn’t expect to be able to address every thought that comes through your head and nor should you try. There should be a category of things that you immediately dismiss.
For instance, if you’re on the internet in any capacity – whether that’s YouTube, Twitter, Facebook, blog, anything – you know that you have to absolutely ignore trolls. You cannot dedicate thought space, mind, area to those worthless internet ghosts or you’ll just be racing over and over again and not being as effective as you can.
Don’t give them the time. Don’t feed your head trolls. Just keep going. Reclaim that energy. Refocus it back on whatever it is that you’re doing or on a manual task that just completely gets your mind occupied by the ones and twos of the steps that need to be done and stop letting every thought control your life.
You deserve more than that. You’re in control. You decide what you spend your energy, your focus, and your thoughts on. Be empowered. You can do it. Pick and choose. Don’t dwell and be swell. I don’t know. Dwell no more.