Patience is one of those skills, those characteristics, those inklings of your being that are just so important, but there’s not really a class on it or good information on it. Or maybe all that you’ve ever been able to find is a trite thing from your parents or grandparents.
That’s not to completely disregard or disrespect them, but I guarantee the truth is in there, but if you don’t understand how to make the connection from where you are today to the place where they are, that that statement makes sense.
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Well, I’m not going to bore you with a bunch of mental, self-help stuff. I’m going to give you one thing that you can do today, and I want you to do for at least three months. Okay, okay, three weeks and I hope you do it forever because it will so infinitely increase your patience and understanding of what it is to be in control of the way you react to things and understanding how other people react…that patience just becomes second nature.
You’re going to hear it and you’re going to think oh, that’s stupid, that’s not true, that’s a complete waste of my time, what is this crazy guy thinking about? But I can guarantee you’ve never tried it in a dedicated fashion, all the time, every time.
I want you to promise yourself from this point on, if you actually really do want to see improvement in your patience and to learn that skill, to always drive at or below the speed limit. That’s it, 2-3 miles below all the way up to the speed limit, never an inkling above.
I’m talking cruise control everywhere — highway, long trips, short trips, down the street to the corner store, in your neighborhood, everywhere. Speed limit. Not the fast lane. In the middle, getting out of people’s way, letting people ride your butt, letting people be upset that you’re following the law. It is going to be so tough that you’ll probably not want to do it or not feel that you can do it the first couple of times you try.
Just power through. Power through, you can do it. One of the biggest things that will help you on those first couple of days is to flip your mirror up to where it’s on the bright lights setting, to where you can’t see the people behind you because it’s just going to bug you.
It’s just going to get on you. You’re going to think that you have to get out of their way or something, but guess what, it’s not your responsibility to enable other people to break the law and go past the speed limit…because by doing that, you do, too.
Your primary interest is in following the law and being safe on the road. Of that comes the patience to understand that no one else in the whole entire world is going to do it, so you’ll be the only person, and yes, someone may shake their fist at you, but if by learning and exposing yourself to those microscopic events that you slowly learn patience in this one arena…it just starts to flow out to the rest of your life.
Once you learn that principle and the way that works in your mind, you can apply it in other situations. It’s pretty simple: Drive the speed limit. It’s good for your patience. I guarantee it.
Have a good one. I hope that helps. Please give it a shot and peace out.