If you’re like most people, you have this really stupid, negative, narrative track that keeps following you around everywhere. Now I know that sounds funky, but it’s that little voice back there that says, “oh I’m just too grumpy,” or “oh everyone else controls me and gets to me,” or “oh I can’t control anything in this world,” or maybe even that, “I mope around because I don’t deserve anything else.”
You know what sucks most about this picture? That dude had to sabotage his happiness for this shot. Ouch!
All of those thoughts, from that little negative punk in your head, are useless unless you can flip them up and understand that they’re there to remind you what you should be doing. Here we’re going to stop those narrative tracks and get you on the right road.
Tip #1: Stop Being So Grumpy All The Time
You’re setting yourself up for being open to all kinds of negative thoughts, actions, and sayings. And most of them are happening inside your own head. This is when any little thing goes wrong and your first thought is, “oh great I’m having such a bad day.” Are you really having a bad day? Is any day that you’re alive, and able to do more things, really a bad day? Or are these things you’re just saying, that don’t add any real value to your day? Those valueless sayings have to stop.
Tip #2: Stop Letting Other People Get To You
I know you might work with micromanagers, or annoying coworkers, or overbearing bosses that just seem to add extra weight to your day. Everyone has these influencers in their life. You either learn to deal with them, or are controlled by them, and that’s it. They don’t make you mad. They do things that can push you towards making that decision yourself, but it’s ultimately your decision to choose to be mad. Well how about you choose not to be made next time. Choose to use it to fuel you to get where you need to go.
Tip #3: Stop Fighting Things You Can’t Control
A great example of this is other people. No matter what you think you can get done, you cannot control anyone. You may be well versed in B.F Skinner’s “Line of Behaviorism” psychology, but guess what? You’re still not controlling people. All you’re doing is beating them into submission so that they do just enough to keep you off their back. But given the opportunity to grow and excel outside of that, they will.
Know that other people will always make their own decisions, regardless of what you request or do. Sure, you can help influence decisions, but if you come from the perspective of forcing people to do things, you’ll get a whole lot less done, than if you come from the perspective of helping them see why it benefits them to get things done.
Tip #4: Stop Moping Around
Yes, you’re tired. Yes, you don’t have enough energy. Yes, you’re not getting enough of the things you think you should have in life. I get this, I understand this. Everyone has some basis where they can complain if they choose to. Do you really want to choose to complain about everything? Do you really want to see yourself moping about all day long? Put yourself in the eyeballs of everyone around you. Do you think they enjoy seeing “mopey you” all the time? Chances are they don’t. Take the opportunity to choose to mope less.
Sabotage No More, Folks
Ultimate happiness is within your reach, when you use these four tips to stop sabotaging your day and life. Stop being so grumpy, stop letting other people get to you, stop fighting the things you can’t control, and doggone it, stop moping around. It’s time to live and be happy.