You have grandparents, don’t you? How long have they been married? Twenty years? Thirty years? Forty? Fifty? Maybe sixty? Isn’t that a wonderful thing? It’s such a beautiful thing to celebrate two people that have been together, had kids, and have done alright for many decades.
“It sure is a good thing we had a photographer on this lone beach to capture our lovely moment…”
More often than not, it’s kind of depressing to see, people left and right, being divorced and just falling out of love from each other. It’s a sad thing, and I know certain circumstances make people want to go that route, but there are four growth tips I have for you here that will help you have a truly happy marriage and to do away with any of those other options.
If you’ll seek the ultimate goal of shared love and helping each other out to get to Heaven, then you’ll know what it’s like to be truly happily married. Sure, there will be tough days, but stick with it, and these four tips will help.
#1: Marry Someone Who Is A Friend
I know people can get along with complete strangers. They do it all the time. But if you have the opportunity to get to know someone without any of the extra emotional stuff that goes along with deep relationships, you’ll be able to understand all the things that are important, not important, or annoying to someone before you make any major commitments. This is a great time to see how well you fit together and to build up that initial relationship of trust, understanding, and time.
#2: Do Things Together, Instead Of With Others
Do you like to bowl? Do you like to fish? Do you like to go jogging? These are things that you can remove from your exercise partners or your friends, and do them with your marriage partner. When you start replacing some of the other events and happenings that you do, that take your time away from your partner, you begin to see opportunities to grow.
Spend more time with your spouse, doing the little things here and there, even if that’s just shopping, and there will be many more opportunities to grow. And with growth, comes understanding. And with understanding, comes patience and happiness.
#3: Treat Each Other Like They’re Precious To You
Being with someone for so long and so close and sharing every bit of details can kind of dull the senses to a certain point. The love grows so deep that you have this general understanding and sometimes, words are left out, when maybe it is time to say a couple here and there, to enhance understanding.
Growth is a continual thing. You don’t just start it and let it go without ever watering it again. You have to continually add into the system to have it grow to the size of a tree that actually bears fruit. So treat your partner like they’re the absolute most precious thing in the world.
Now, I know you won’t be able to do this every day. It’s a very tough thing to practice. But know, that you have given yourself to each other, and this is an absolutely wonderful, an entirely mysterious thing that needs to be appreciated more.
#4: Never Ever, Ever, Ever, Ever Cheat
There is absolutely no excuse in the world to do any type of disrespect by cheating on anyone that you’re married to. There is nothing that’s worth it, there’s nothing to prove, and there’s absolutely no eternal joy to get out of anything you can do with anyone else. As a matter of fact, the best thing you can do is to completely ignore and shut out any opportunities to even get close to that type of temptation. Your life will be better by shutting out those horrible opportunities.
To Be Truly Happy is a True Gift
Taking tips from those that have been married for many decades is one great motion toward being truly happy in your marriage. If you’ll look to marry someone who’s a friend, you’ll do more things together, you’ll treat each other like the precious gems that you are, and you’ll promise to be ever faithful, your marriage will be truly happy. It’s time to take back marriage for what it’s supposed to be, and bring back the greatest love of all with each other.