Confidence is a challenging issue for many, if not most people. It’s hard to be confident in society today when we are bombarded with images of physical perfection and the most successful among us are heavily lauded. Being average just doesn’t make a person feel very confident these days. Ideally, confidence should be derived from our personal successes and knowing the challenges we’ve overcome even if no one else does, but in reality it rarely works that way. I’ve learned there are exercises you can do to make yourself feel more confident, such as a say positive, bold things out loud about yourself to yourself or a close friend or family member and hearing yourself say these things will build confidence. I’ve learned this actually works!
Having more confidence can boost your career because if you feel confident you will project yourself in manner that will make others likely think you are a strong and capable person. Personally, confidence can help you to avoid some bad choices. For example, some women get involved with really bad men b/c they don’t have the confidence to believe they can be alone and take care of themselves. Confident women are less likely to settle for a jerk. Confident men are less likely to get caught up by women who will take advantage of them. Also confident people attract other people, so they rarely have a hard time making friends.
Confidence is something that should come from within, based on traits within. You can’t build your confidence around superficial things, nor should it be based around being accepted by others or a particular group. You should feel confident if you know you are a smart, capable, good and kind person, someone who is not afraid to step up to challenge, to give of themselves for others, someone who knows they know how to do things, etc. Also, confidence is something that should be encouraged more by friends and family and society in general. It’s good to take time to tell people what they do well, what you admire about them, etc to help others build their confidence. Life is too short. Take time to say something nice!
This RichardStep Marketing survey was designed to get a better understanding of what really gets under the skin of those folks out there dealing with confidence. Read over the awesome answers below and see how you can tailor your business to address the frustrations of the people most relevant to your business niche market. Want more? Read the 125 other topics in the ‘Frustrations’ survey category by clicking here.
The following list are uncut and raw responses of the things this group found most frustrating in their daily lives.
Confidence
- Every day, I have to deal with people who find their constant joy in hating and insulting me as much as they can. This has effected me so much, it has led to attempted suicide several times. I have no confidence in anything I do whatsoever, and it all stems from believing the hate other people give me.
- Hiding all these secrets and lies from my friends and family. It’s a bad thing to do. It is most likely a burden to me. And then I have to deal with school. The school itself is amazing, put the school aside, the students are horrific. Judging here and there like they enjoy the tauntung and bullying of others. And people on the sidelines are way too scared to stand up for themselves and then leads into suicide. I am one of them people that act like everything is okay but in reality, I am an open wound. I hide everything with my smile and these masks I apply onto myself, hoping for a change within society itself and they way people live their lives and look onto others. To top thyings off, I go to church, and to be honest I have sunned a lot in the pst, and there are certain expectations of what my parents and what the church expects of me. I am not that perfect person yet everyone expects me to be that one “perfeect human being”. My culture is also strict and they also have certain things they want us to do. So to conclude my thing, everyday is fustrating to me, hiding things inside of me, becoming a burden. I may even die from this stress… But I have loving and supporting frinds and family that I ignore and put a brick wall around me.
- I decided to run for a position, an officer for an organization in my university. It is frustrating because I’m scared what if I actually don’t get the position or what if I do get the position will I be able to get things done or contribute to the organization. At first, I wanted to try it because I had 4 application forms from the past that I answered but did not pass. I mean, what am I afraid of? I haven’t even tried it yet but this time I passed the form, there were many things I have to do and now I am scared. Will I be able to pass all of this,,, maybe I need to back down from the position but then what about the experience… :’l
- I don’t get frustrated easily. I am generally relaxed and I just take things as they come. I also just do things that I know I have to do without complaining although sometimes I feel sad when I see that people are taking advantage of my generosity. I often feel sad because I have a quite personality and I don’t like it much because people tend to look down on me or exclude me when they are doing things. when I’m in a group of people speaking English, I feel like my English is bad and I really just wish I had good vocabulary like them.
- Most times i’m so confused about who I really am. I used to be very confident and all back home. Now i’m in a new country, i’m surrounded by extremely smart people and suddenly, it feels like my brain is failing me. I can’t seem to find what I can offer the society. Recently, this was made very obvious when I worked in a team of other scholars and I realized how I couldn’t contribute a thing to all decisions made and it made me talk so badly about myself before others did.
- Something that was frustrating was about my mental illness and OCD making me have obsessions on my short stature 5’6″. I can’t shake it off and I get frustrated because I can’t seem to find a solution to this problem even though I know it’s not a big problem at all! I find this frustrating because I can’t find a solution and can’t stop thinking about it and everywhere I go outside I become self concious so it bothers me a lot.
- The most frustrating thing I have ever had to do was being part of a training which gauged our behavior, our orientation of motivation and we were constantly questioned to explain our behavior.it was frustrating because I felt ill at ease speaking about myself in such detail and the interrogators did not seem willing to help.
- The most frustrating thing in the past few Days, would have had to have been trying to convince someone I could do something, even though they couldn’t believe me. This was frustrating because, I know what I am able to do, and if say I can do it, I can, and when someone doubts me it annoys me.
- The most frustrating was when I realized that I am not emotionally independent. It makes me sad because I know that I can be better if I’ll be more independent and more secured with what I have. I realized that I have to accept the real me and have my own identity rather than getting it from other people. I have to be me. I am learning the hard way.